2/26/11

Want Your Wife Love You More? A Message To Husbands

Are you a married man? If yes, try to answer these questions. Do you know the favourite colour of your wife? Which is her favourite on your dress collection? What is the current status of her favourite hobby? When did she last cry? If your answer for these question takes you more than 1 minute, you are not a success in understanding your wife. Some people may think that "why? why should I know about her likes and dislikes? ". The answer is, when you realize her wishes , when you behave according to it, you will become her dream husband.  Remember, your life will be like an unclouded sky once you succeed in getting this done.  Read to know the wishes of your wife and watch the tremendous changes in your life.


Be open
Women want men to be open. Don't disappoint your  wife when she pour a number of questions while you return from office. She cares a lot for you and so feels better when you tell the story of the day. Most men try to ignore such questions saying that I am tired. There ends all the conversation. If you are not in a mood to tell the entire day events, don't tell it directly, better ask for a cup of tea and then serene yourself. Then say about some interesting experience at office or about a film, she will be happy. That means, her point is not to know and criticize your daily activity. She is concerned about you , so want to know, whether you are happy or not...accept her care to make a better situation.
'Being talkative' is a very normal character in common female persona. As she is talkative she wants you to open yourself and talk along with listening her. She finds happiness in sharing everything, even routine each other. Don't forget, she is not your enemy, she is the only one person in this world who wants you to touch heights. She is the only one person in this world who has no one else to replace you.  Once you open up and tell about you, she will have the feeling that you are loving her than you. Listening also will have the same kind of importance. Listen her with interest and share her feelings and sentiments.
The human development has two faces. One is culture and the other one is civilization. Culture includes love, faith, relationships, and importance for social values. Civilization is based on the development of technology. It includes computers, cars, games and mobiles. The basic feminine character promotes culture when masculine character promotes civilization. She prefers to hear talks about love, faith, human values and God and hates to listen long speeches about cars, computers and mobiles, so better avoid such talks especially when she is tired or bored. Never receive her with a news of cricket if she returns home from office. She may not object you when you say this, but don't accept it as a sign of acceptance. She is compromising in such situations for not letting things to go wrong.


Recognize her
The traditional concept pictures man as the resource for safety and currency. But, the present day woman have exceeded all the common limits and now they are sharing the shoulder heights of men not only in income but also in power. But sometimes, men fail to accept and recognize that change. It is obvious that men wants recognition and so women. Recognize her and congratulate her for all her special achievement. Usually women like to be praised when she does something differently. You might have noticed her asking you, "how was the food?". If your answer is even in words like good, nice or excellent will contribute the same feeling of 'bad'. Don't make her wait till she losses patience and ask about it. congratulate her on the spot and praise the taste of the food if it is really not bad. Even though it is bad, convey it in soft words. Most men found a special kind of happiness when they devalue or under estimate their partners before others. Trust me, if you have done it at least once to your wife, she will never believe you again. She will not be comfortable when you are in a group. She will expect an insulation from your side if both you are hosting guests at home. This expectation will appear as rebellion. Thus, it is you with your behavior made your wife to develop a negative attitude in her. Even though you don't want to praise her before other, never ever blame her or under-value her.


Understand her
Women believe in expressed love when men like to hide their love in heart. Have you noticed, your wife will plan to buy gifts for  your birth day or wedding anniversary, at least before a month when there are situations when you forget the dates. They expect this in return as well. A female loves to be touched as a sign of love. She takes sex in an emotional way. Her sexual orgasm depends in a highly emotional level when it is truly physical for men.  I do remember one quote I read somewhere very recently."Women give sex for love when men give love for sex" . Keep it in mind when you approach her for sex. Believe me, she will loss all her faith in you, if you are keeping her in another bed under the same roof. rather doing it, i suggest you to prepare for a divorce as it is not far, only if your wife can earn for herself and her kids.
I have a book suggestion for you to improve your relationship with your partner. The book is "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus", written by Mr.John Gray. Suggest this book to your wife as well. If both of you can read it, it can become a tool for improving your relationship.



12/7/10

Prayer of the Goddess

God, I am confused; I am confused on my own identity
People call me the goddess of justice; I don’t know why they do?
They want my presence and blessing wherever they desire justice
But they never let me involve in the process of justification

I’m not sure about the time when people began calling me the Goddess of justice
I don’t know when I came into being as the Goddess of justice
I don’t know why they want my presence wherever they need justice
But, I know one thing I am a blind and dumb fellow in justification process

I am not happy with you, as you are the one who created me with sound ears
You could have made me deaf as well, as I cannot see and state anything
I hear painful voices and barbarous noises while I approve justice
At times I wanted to shout, no…This is not right and justice; but, I can’t speak


Way back, I heard an argument against a man who had not committed any sin
The arbiter was silent as me, but I must give way to justice to the people
They wanted Barabbas, a brutal thief instead of him, the absolute savior
Since that day I am confused, confused of the meaning of justice

I never have heard such a very truthful and strong voice before that day
Later, I heard people saying that he had to suffer a lot before death
Two drops of tears made my blind eyes wet, for the last time
Now I don’t cry for anyone, I don’t have tears now to cry as I lost it

My ears are the cause for the loss of my tears; I don’t want to have ears
I can’t close them as my hands are occupied with a strange sword and a scale
I thank those who made me blind, is it you, the almighty?
If yes, I have a prayer, Please make me deaf too



8/7/10

My Unconditional Lover

An unconditional lover…. A person who loves without conditions…
Is someone really there on earth with unconditional love?
Can a mother become unconditionally loving? I don’t think she can,
A mother always expect her kid to grow up and empathize to her..
She induces her wishes and considerations to her kid in a very small age

Can a father be an unconditional lover, who loves without conditions?
Obviously not, as he expects his kid to grow up and take care of his family
He feeds his kid, a feeling of responsibility and condition along with food
He tries to explicate the terms of his future to his child with the education

Siblings!!! Do they do something for a person to be successful in life?
Yes, they do something very much special to form a very high attitude
While helping you, they also want you to help them in their need
So, their hands and love also become conditional, like everyone else

So, a person always wants another person to come into his life
To overcome the pressure of this conditionally loving world
Girl expects her partner to become an unconditional lover
But, Within a few years, she understands, he also is conditional

Not in friends? Where should I go to find that unconditional love…
I raised my eyes to heavens to find him, as I could not find anywhere
There, I saw him…he was passionately looking at me…
He told me… I love you unconditionally…. I can’t stay apart from you…

He told me again that I love you, I love you…I can’t keep you away…
So I stay inside you… inside your heart… I am love….The love unconditional…
I reside at your heart…..So your heart became unconditionally loving
Feel it and be what you are, and love others unconditionally as I do…



8/6/10

Hey Wind Thanks



The wind blows on my face, as if I feel it blows on my mind
It really touched my mind as if I feel like it touched my life
The persona of the wind is the same regardless of continents
Sirocco, monsoon, or Chinook, winds have similar character
They have alike effect on the lives of the respective locale
All of them used to blow on the faces of those local poets
I guess all other winds used to touch the minds of the locale
As if they touch the lives here; like the monsoon touched me
The monsoon touched my mind and transformed my life

I feel the presence of someone in the other end of the ocean
Who is enjoying the wind as I do here on this shore….
I want to tell her that, friend… I also am enjoying
Enjoying like you in this shore which is just opposite to you
With same feeling of passion and delectation
So, join me to thank the wind…..Let’s do it together
Hey wind, you made us realize the life around the globe
The human feelings and emotions are same across it
Hey wind, our friend, Thanks… Thanks a lot for it..



5/21/10

Where are you?

Tell me my dear Aunt, Where are you?
Are you there behind that pink curtain?
Are you busy with shopping green bangles?
Are you busy with cooking my favorite dish?

I explored in each and every corner of my mind
I explored…But I could not find you anywhere
I am afraid you keep hiding yourself from me
Are you? If yes, I beg you not to do ….

You know, how much do you mean to me?
You are my model, my guide and my mentor
You brought the first glimpse of love in my life
How can I forget you? How can I infer it?

Till now, I was happy and courageous…
I had a comforting feel in my inner soul…
It’s great to have a feeling of someone’s care
But now, I feel loneliness… I am alone ….

I am alone in this entire world…….
I am afraid whether this world is conspiring…
Conspiring to keep my loving aunt away
Hey world, I will not let you do that…

I will not let anyone to separate my aunt
She is mine.., She is my own… She is only mine
God has given her to me as a gift…
She is a gift given to me from heaven

Dear Aunt… Can you listen me?
If yes… please don’t let this erring world
Don’t let it to make me live without you
Come back… to be a part of my life forever



For the one who is really special

For the one who is really special, I really want to kneel down before you
I always tried to find fault in you; I tried to make you feel that you are guilty
I always tried to fancy that you are the ground behind every failure in my life
I always complained against you that you will never and cannot understand me

I did all these by forgetting that you are the only one who loved me very much
At times I forgot the fact that you are the only one who cared me when I needed it
I never tried to understand you and made all those silly complaints against you
I really forgot the fact that you are the one who is really special to me

Now, I am before you, kneeling down before you to ask your pardon,
I am not sure anyone in this world can forgive me for all those pains
Yet, I believe you will forgive me as you have done in all these years to me
And now I understand, you forgive me, you care me, and you love me and….

And that is the reason; I call you as someone who is really special to me
Yes, you are the one who is really special to me and I want to tell you
I want to tell you that I understand you, I love you and I am here to care you
I want to become the “ someone who is really special to you”…….



12/5/09

I am sad, but

I am sad; I am the saddest among the intact world.
I want to be happy but I am not when all others are
I believed the entire world conspire for my success
But I realize, I was wrong, none conjure for others

All machinate for their own success, not for others
Even I desire and complot to become a success
All want to be success; that is the cabal within all
Might be that confederacy lead people to live life

I had a lot of pains in the past, all might had pain
But my past pains induced ripe resolutions later
Now also I feel all my anguishes are for future grace
Such altering go through of mine is a lesson for my life

So now I welcome all my hurts with receptive mind
I anticipate the presence of someone in my life
To descend and switch my botherations into joy
I don’t know who is that, I trust that might be God.


My home

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