From the life of Budha

Here is an incident from Budha’s life.

As part of a travel to spread his doctrine, once Gauthama Budha reached sravasthi. A very rich man came  there to meet Budha. He told Budha,

“ Lord, forgive me as I cannot treat you well as I am sick. I am suffering with obesity. I am not able even to move my body according to my will. Smaller motions cause larger pain in my body. This obstructs all my daily activities and so I want you to forgive me as I am not able to treat you well.  ”

Budha’s heart sunk in favour of that rich but poor man. He looked at the fat guy and asked in a sweet voice,

“Dear, do you want to know the reason for your sickness?”,

“Yes my Lord”, the fat man replied in a trembling voice.

Budha kept silence for a few seconds and started telling in a calm voice. There are five reasons for your sickness.
1.Over food
2.Over sleep
3.Laziness
4.Rude behavior
5.Lack of responsibility

The fat man looked like he accepted all Budha’s comments. Budha continued telling that you can get your health back if you can obey my instructions. To get rid of from your decease, at first you need to control your food, make use of your talents and finally make sure that your talents are being used for the well-being of the society.

The rich man accepted Budha’s words and followed them strictly. In less than six months he lost his weight and became healthy and enthusiastic. This made him happy and he visited Budha and told him,

“ Lord, I am healthy and happy. Now give light to my mind and soul”
 

Budha smiled at him and told, worldly man enriches his body where as spiritual man enriches his soul. The one who searches for worldly wealth destroys his soul and the one who searches God, gets long life and real joy.

I need your hand to close my eyes when I die

Human being is constructed in a way that he needs someone to love correct hin and guide him. Recently I read a quote some where which says that " If I go wrong,I need your hand to correct Me.If I am lost,I need your hand to guide me,If on fine day I die..I need your hand to close my eyes". When a human being gets denied of this, uncompromising need, there he ceases to be a human being and there we can see the birth of a terrorist. So try to spread love to be loved and to keep our nation secure from terrorism.

Secret of Happiness

Mankind longs for happiness. Poor man longs to have food, cloth, and shelter to stay happy. Rich man longs to have power and wealth to stay happier. The richest man has power but still longs for something which he does not even understand what it is. Suppose God is visiting you in next fifteen minutes, and then what will you ask for? Many of us might ask for more wealth, good life partner, wonderful kids and a magnificent life. But there is a man in Bible. King Solomon asked nothing else except wisdom. In dictionary, the meaning of wisdom is “the quality of being prudent and sensible”. The term quality itself has not a permanent standard. It differs according to individuals, then how can we standardize wisdom.

While thinking of it, I remembered a small story in the book “The Alchemist”, written by Paulo Coelho. As this story answered a number of my questions, I thought of sharing it with you. Enjoy the story without losing its essence, because 'the secret of happiness is to see all the marvels of the world, and never to forget the drops of oil on the spoon.' The story follows.

"A certain shopkeeper sent his son to learn about the secret of happiness from the wisest man in the world. The lad wandered through the desert for forty days, and finally came upon a beautiful castle, high atop a mountain. It was there that the wise man lived.

 "Rather than finding a saintly man, though, our hero, on entering the main room of the castle, saw a hive of activity: tradesmen came and went, people were conversing in the corners, a small orchestra was playing soft music, and there was a table covered with platters of the most delicious food in that part of the world. The wise man conversed with everyone, and the boy had to wait for two hours before it was his turn to be given the man's attention. "The wise man listened attentively to the boy's explanation of why he had come, but told him that he didn't have time just then to explain the secret of happiness. He suggested that the boy look around the palace and return in two hours.

“‘Meanwhile, I want to ask you to do something,' said the wise man, handing the boy a teaspoon that held two drops of oil. 'As you wander around, carry this spoon with you without allowing the oil to spill.' "The boy began climbing and descending the many stairways of the palace, keeping his eyes fixed on the spoon. After two hours, he returned to the room where the wise man was. “‘Well,' asked the wise man, 'did you see the Persian tapestries that are hanging in my dining hall? Did you see the garden that it took the master gardener ten years to create? Did you notice the beautiful parchments in my library?' "The boy was embarrassed, and confessed that he had observed nothing. His only concern had been not to spill the oil that the wise man had entrusted to him.

" 'Then go back and observe the marvels of my world,' said the wise man. 'You cannot trust a man if you don't know his house.' "Relieved, the boy picked up the spoon and returned to his exploration of the palace, this time observing all of the works of art on the ceilings and the walls. He saw the gardens, the mountains all around him, the beauty of the flowers, and the taste with which everything had been selected. Upon returning to the wise man, he related in detail everything he had seen. " 

'But where are the drops of oil I entrusted to you?' asked the wise man. "Looking down at the spoon he held, the boy saw that the oil was gone.” 'Well, there is only one piece of advice I can give you,' said the wisest of wise men. 'The secret of happiness is to see all the marvels of the world, and never to forget the drops of oil on the spoon.' " The most famous quotes of Robert Frost, “The woods are lovely, dark and deep. But I have promises to keep, and miles to go before I sleep” appears to give a similar attitude. He saw the woods, but did not want to immerse in it as he had to travel a lot…. It is said that, this quotes were written in Jawahar Lal Nehru’s diary. Was Nehru a wise man? I don’t prefer to answer that question. History of India after 1964 will answer it.

I Bother

I bother! I bother about not me! But my mother

Here in this womb, I am safe…She keeps me safe

Every day she prays, Oh God…Save my kid….

I never listened her praying anything else….

When she suffers, she is tensed not about her

But about me…she is afraid that it may affect me

She drinks a lot of water as she knows…

She knows that I need nutrients…She has nothing else to feed me…

She loves me, I know it…she had pills to sleep

She told me that it is also to save me….

Her tension and pain may affect me….

Her life is a dilemma…She is in fuss…

I want to help my mother…but…

I am helpless….from her womb…

I cannot do anything….

I am only a little new zygote…

But someone please understands….

I have a soul…I am a person….

A person who can’t bear my mother’s pain

Because I love her a lot…..

She carries me….She needs to perch….

But she is not able to be in ease…..

She is running…to facilitate my birth….

At work place and home…she endures

My mother, ‘who is my home’ is in agony…

She is crying….her restless life makes me restless…

Her heart weeps when each drop of blood oozes

She again wants to live with my life…..

Mother…please don’t cry…. I am still alive…

Open your eyes and see…you don’t bleed now…

I am alive mother…I am alive….

I cannot go by leaving you…

I will never go mother…I will never go….

I am with you mother…I am inside you

To share your pain…. I will wipe your tears….

I will be yours…. I will be your happiness

As a zygote, I cannot assure you that…

I will provide for you….but mother…

I will support you with my little hands..

Little legs…Loving eyes……..

Mother, I will be the most loving child…

I will love you forever….rather….

I want to tell…I love you mother….

I will make you live for me….

You will forget all your pain….

You will forget all your pain once you see my face…

Now put your hands on your womb…

Feel me mother...Give me your hands to wipe your tears

Mother…Can you live for me mother….

I know that there is no one in this world to care you

There is no one in this world to love you…

But mother…live for me…I will come….

Oh God, I trust you….I devote my mother to you…

Please take care of both of us…..

We have none in this world other than you…

We are totally alone…..oh father….this is my prayer

Lord, me as a zygote…suffers a lot when she has nothing to eat…

I suffer a lot when she travels a lot….

I suffer a lot…when she cries a lot…..

I submit my pain to all those zygotes who suffer like me

Oh God, save all of us….Oh God…wipe the tears of all those mothers….

Lord give strength to all those mothers when you strengthen my mother

Please take care of all those zygotes along with me…so that….

We can come and console our mothers……

Lord, I am sure about one thing…..

I will become a good kid…..

I will become the pride of my mother

As I know how much she suffered to keep me alive

Yet! Yet I bother….I bother about my mother….

I want to give her all the happiness in this world….

But I can’t give it as I am a zygote…..

Here I cry without sound to the entire world….

Please…Please please…save my mother and me…..

Surrender Yourself To Victory

How can a person surrender himself to victory? Let’s understand it with a small story from the book “The Christian’s secret of a happy life” written by Hanna Smith. The story states about a man who was descending into a dry well to find whether there is water in it. He tied a long rope on the post of the well and went down into that dark well through the rope. While going down, he suddenly realizes that he reached at the end of the rope. He elongated his legs by holding on the tip of the rope to find the bottom. Since it was dark, he was not even able to guess the depth. He became bewildered. He thought of leaving his hands from the rope, his mind denied that idea in the next second. Falling down into such a recondite well itself equates to death. So, he decided to return using the same rope. But it was not easy. He was so tired that he was not even able to move up a bit. Yet he tried to ascend through that rope, but his effort was in vain and he was hanging there at the end of that rope.

The man was not able to do anything except holding his hands tightly on the rope. He cried loudly for help. But his sound did not come into anyone’s notice as it is from that deep well. As time passes, he became more tired and the strength of his voice became thinned. His throat was dry and he wanted to drink some water. Yet, he strained to raise his voice and cried loudly by gathering all his strength. But there was no answer. He became weaker and finally he decided to leave his hands from the rope. He prayed “Oh Lord, receive my spirit”. He left his hands and was expecting himself to fall down in a very deep well, but it was a miracle. In less than half a meter, his legs touched soil, where he could find enough water to drink. He suffered all those mortal pain just above half a meter from the bottom of that well.

This small story bespeaks the truth that 'absolute surrender' leads to a successful life. The real spiritual soul is different from worldly law. When world says “Never surrender and surrendering is a failure”, the real spirituality urges us to surrender and that surrender leads us to “the real victory”. The world again says that “God helps those who help themselves”, but real spirituality does not want you to do that. It wants you to leave all the worries and be calm. God asks us to stay without worries since we have a father who takes care of Birds of the sky and Lilies of the fields. He will never leave us, his sons and daughters.

The divine way of success is ‘the complete surrender’ and ‘total submission’. When we submit the past, present and future of our life in God’s hands, we gain victory and freedom. When we are ready to look into God’s face by leaving everything including our efforts to help ourselves, success follows us. For that we need to remove the intimidation about our future and need to leave our hands from that postulating rope. Don’t worry, if you are leaving it with a deep faith in God, you will not fall into depth. God, the real rock will hold you and save you in a place very nearby. So, leave your hands and surrender. Let eternal success follow you, forever.

Want Your Wife Love You More? A Message To Husbands

Are you a married man? If yes, try to answer these questions. Do you know the favourite colour of your wife? Which is her favourite on your dress collection? What is the current status of her favourite hobby? When did she last cry? If your answer for these question takes you more than 1 minute, you are not a success in understanding your wife. Some people may think that "why? why should I know about her likes and dislikes? ". The answer is, when you realize her wishes , when you behave according to it, you will become her dream husband.  Remember, your life will be like an unclouded sky once you succeed in getting this done.  Read to know the wishes of your wife and watch the tremendous changes in your life.

Be open

Women want men to be open. Don't disappoint your  wife when she pour a number of questions while you return from office. She cares a lot for you and so feels better when you tell the story of the day. Most men try to ignore such questions saying that I am tired. There ends all the conversation. If you are not in a mood to tell the entire day events, don't tell it directly, better ask for a cup of tea and then serene yourself. Then say about some interesting experience at office or about a film, she will be happy. That means, her point is not to know and criticize your daily activity. She is concerned about you , so want to know, whether you are happy or not...accept her care to make a better situation.

'Being talkative' is a very normal character in common female persona. As she is talkative she wants you to open yourself and talk along with listening her. She finds happiness in sharing everything, even routine each other. Don't forget, she is not your enemy, she is the only one person in this world who wants you to touch heights. She is the only one person in this world who has no one else to replace you.  Once you open up and tell about you, she will have the feeling that you are loving her than you. Listening also will have the same kind of importance. Listen her with interest and share her feelings and sentiments.

The human development has two faces. One is culture and the other one is civilization. Culture includes love, faith, relationships, and importance for social values. Civilization is based on the development of technology. It includes computers, cars, games and mobiles. The basic feminine character promotes culture when masculine character promotes civilization. She prefers to hear talks about love, faith, human values and God and hates to listen long speeches about cars, computers and mobiles, so better avoid such talks especially when she is tired or bored. Never receive her with a news of cricket if she returns home from office. She may not object you when you say this, but don't accept it as a sign of acceptance. She is compromising in such situations for not letting things to go wrong.

Recognize her

The traditional concept pictures man as the resource for safety and currency. But, the present day woman have exceeded all the common limits and now they are sharing the shoulder heights of men not only in income but also in power. But sometimes, men fail to accept and recognize that change. It is obvious that men wants recognition and so women. Recognize her and congratulate her for all her special achievement. Usually women like to be praised when she does something differently. You might have noticed her asking you, "how was the food?". If your answer is even in words like good, nice or excellent will contribute the same feeling of 'bad'. Don't make her wait till she losses patience and ask about it. congratulate her on the spot and praise the taste of the food if it is really not bad. Even though it is bad, convey it in soft words. Most men found a special kind of happiness when they devalue or under estimate their partners before others. Trust me, if you have done it at least once to your wife, she will never believe you again. She will not be comfortable when you are in a group. She will expect an insulation from your side if both you are hosting guests at home. This expectation will appear as rebellion. Thus, it is you with your behavior made your wife to develop a negative attitude in her. Even though you don't want to praise her before other, never ever blame her or under-value her.

Understand her

Women believe in expressed love when men like to hide their love in heart. Have you noticed, your wife will plan to buy gifts for  your birth day or wedding anniversary, at least before a month when there are situations when you forget the dates. They expect this in return as well. A female loves to be touched as a sign of love. She takes sex in an emotional way. Her sexual orgasm depends in a highly emotional level when it is truly physical for men.  I do remember one quote I read somewhere very recently."Women give sex for love when men give love for sex" . Keep it in mind when you approach her for sex. Believe me, she will loss all her faith in you, if you are keeping her in another bed under the same roof. rather doing it, i suggest you to prepare for a divorce as it is not far, only if your wife can earn for herself and her kids.

I have a book suggestion for you to improve your relationship with your partner. The book is "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus", written by Mr.John Gray. Suggest this book to your wife as well. If both of you can read it, it can become a tool for improving your relationship.

Prayer of the Goddess

God, I am confused; I am confused on my own identity

People call me the goddess of justice; I don’t know why they do?

They want my presence and blessing wherever they desire justice

But they never let me involve in the process of justification

I’m not sure about the time when people began calling me the Goddess of justice

I don’t know when I came into being as the Goddess of justice

I don’t know why they want my presence wherever they need justice

But, I know one thing I am a blind and dumb fellow in justification process

I am not happy with you, as you are the one who created me with sound ears

You could have made me deaf as well, as I cannot see and state anything

I hear painful voices and barbarous noises while I approve justice

At times I wanted to shout, no…This is not right and justice; but, I can’t speak

Way back, I heard an argument against a man who had not committed any sin

The arbiter was silent as me, but I must give way to justice to the people

They wanted Barabbas, a brutal thief instead of him, the absolute savior

Since that day I am confused, confused of the meaning of justice

I never have heard such a very truthful and strong voice before that day

Later, I heard people saying that he had to suffer a lot before death

Two drops of tears made my blind eyes wet, for the last time

Now I don’t cry for anyone, I don’t have tears now to cry as I lost it

My ears are the cause for the loss of my tears; I don’t want to have ears

I can’t close them as my hands are occupied with a strange sword and a scale

I thank those who made me blind, is it you, the almighty?

If yes, I have a prayer, Please make me deaf too